Tuesday, November 17, 2009

Happy Anniversary!

As the day winds down and I spend time alone, I try to remember even four years ago. Standing on the rocks with the splendor of autumn leaves surrounding us. Only a few witnesses to remember the day.

I think about this year and how ugly it has been. Not only from circumstances but, with each other. I think of my own parents marriage and how fragile it was from the start. I so desperately want to change that history. I think about how we as people from broken paths, attempt to change the path. How one year can be delicious, the next enraging.

I haven't changed my mind, though many often do. When times get tough, when people have to struggle. In the world of "Me's", there's very few "us". In the world of "do what makes you happy", I still see "us".

Many people fail at this adventure. Mostly because they want what they want, when they want it. They don't want to take the journey. They want comfort and adoration. They want to be entertained. I want those things at times, you want those things too.

What is a true definition of love? In my book, it's staying through thick and thin. Loving fiercely and not letting go. Sacrificing at times and fighting for what's right. Giving of yourself when you don't always feel like it. Making time for each other.

I think it's important to be reminded why we love and the commitment we make when we say "I do". Our anniversary is a time to remember the covenant, to remember why I chose you. To be thankful that we have each other.
Four years ago today, I picked you. I love you, through thick and thin.

What greater thing is there for two human souls
than to feel that they are joined together to strengthen
each other in all labor, to minister to each other in all sorrow,
to share with each other in all gladness,
to be one with each other in the
silent unspoken memories?
By George Eliot


Joey Fortman said...

Great post! I love your bright thoughts on marriage!

Liza said...

I think you are right on track Mel. Sacrifice, I think I learned best from Bob's example. He never complains, just gives, gives, and gives some more. Love is intentional. Something you choose to do everyday. I liked your decscription of loving "fiercely". Those bad years are something everyone goes through but you have to know the valleys to appreciate the hilltops. To know the bitter to apprectiate the sweet. Happy Anniversary. Keep giving, loving and praying.

Jessilyn said...

Me and my husband just had our first Anniversary Oct 25th and trust me the first year it had its ups and downs. We were dating 4 yrs before we even thought about getting married. I sacrifice a lot for everyone I know include my husband but I am glad to at times and others I just need time to breathe but I love him and Marriage takes time and strength. Happy Anniversary! And thank you so much for your post.

The Jacobsen Family! said...

Just finally catching up on posts! I know I wished you Happy Anniversary on FB, so I dont feel so bad.
Love this and all you wrote. So true. Good for you for sticking it out and trying to make a new path. Love you!