Friday, April 18, 2008


This is not a debate, it's is my opinion on a tragedy that happens in our lives. I saw on my space that a person I don't know personally, but know of, just lost her husband. She was with a very abusive man and finally got out of that relationship. She had two sons. Met her husband and he took great care of her and her sons. She loves him intensely, obviously. She posted that he took his own life a week or so ago.

This is just one instance of suicide that hits close to home. I've known of four men killing themselves and leaving their wives and children, I had a friend sit in front of a train(he was only 15) and a few others. Most of them men. I'm sure there's plenty of statistics why a man would kill himself and honestly, I don't care to go into that right now.

This is seriously one of the most selfish acts any human can ever make. I know about depression, PTSD, blah blah. I just see the utter devastation and anger left behind. It's a carnage I would never wish on anyone. At least with murder, health, accidents, etc you can place blame elsewhere. With suicide that person chose to leave! They chose to leave the innocent bystanders that the dead was supposed to care for. Supposed to raise up and protect. It seriously makes me so angry. I have been at the bottom of the barrel, I know what it's like.

Besides my obvious religious beliefs, it really is a human thing for me. We are made weak at times but, there is always hope. There is always a way out.

I don't know, I guess that's all I have to say about the subject.


Heather said...

There was a man who lived a mile down the road from me, who I knew, who killed himself not long ago.
He had 2 kids and although I agree that it is a very selfish thing to do, I don't think the person thinks that way. They have more of a "pity, they will all be better off without me" attitude.

Karen of Sillymonkeez said...

I think there are probably many different reasons why men commit suicide. Some probably think, like Heather said, that their families will be better off without them. I'm thinking this is common for men who think they are a burden. Some men do it because they are selfish like teenagers who think this will show them or they'll be sorry when they find me dead.

I think many men, not all, do not want to appear weak. I think asking for help, talking to a councilor or checking into a psych ward would make them feel weak. They probably think they are appearing to be brave rather than cowardly if they can put a gun to their own head or stand in front of a moving train.

I agree that it is selfish no matter what their reasons are.

Minilegs said...

yeah I understand the many reasons, it wasn't just men I was thinking about. It really is all people that leave children and or people depending on them. single people still have family usually too